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Getting Ready to Mail Packages to the Troops for Easter

by Edie Melson

Boxes to be filled - photos from our Christmas mailing.

Even though Easter comes a bit later this year, our local Blue Star Mothers Chapter 3 is gearing up to ship out—packages that is. 

We love sending boxes to the troops, and that's always been one of our main missions. But sending so many boxes takes a bit of planning. 

Beyond that, we couldn't do it without the love & support we get from the community. They're what helps bring it all together.

What Can I Do to Help Military Families?

by Edie Melson

Ever since my first devotional for military families, Fighting Fear: Winning the War at Home When Your Soldier Leaves for Battle hit store shelves, I've been besieged by one question. 

What can I do to reach out to military families in my community? 

People are looking for ways to support our military and their waiting families—but they don’t know what to do.

I completely understand. 

Before our son joined the Marine Corps, I had no idea either. We don’t come from a military family and our home in upstate South Carolina isn’t near a military base.

So today I want to share some of the ways our community reached out to us and ways I see others currently reaching out to families.

Ways Our Community Helped Us

• Ask how their soldier is doing—and then give the family a chance to answer. This is so comforting. Often our soldiers feel like the world has forgotten them, and sometimes the families feel that way too. Giving them a chance to share news, triumphs and fears is vital

• Send their soldier a letter, or even better, a package. Knowing that our son was receiving mail from people other than family was huge. I knew it let him know he wasn’t forgotten.

• Let the family know you’re praying. As I mentioned in my book, I would sometimes be so fearful I had trouble praying. Invariably I’d hear from someone that during my time of prayerlessness, they had been praying.

• Be on hand for the send-off and the homecoming. Some soldiers prefer a quiet send-off or homecoming, but be sure to reach out near these special dates and if they’re open, take part! Especially be available to line the streets when a soldier is killed at war. That happened recently in our community and the outpouring of support was incredible and helped so many more than just the family. 

Things I See Others Doing Now

• Help with the kids left at home. We all know how hard it is to be a single parent these days. That difficulty is magnified when one parent is away at war. Step in and offer to help get younger kids to and from activities.

• Provide a night out. Whether it’s a child or spouse away at war, the family can use a chance to get out with friends. Especially if it’s a spouse, money can be tight. So plan a special surprise with a gift card to a movie or favorite restaurant.

• Offer to collect items to send. Most of us are a part of some kind of group. You may not be able to collect a truck load, but if we all do a little we can accomplish amazing things! Our soldiers love getting things from home and it’s even better when they have plenty to share with their buddies.

• Stop and give. As a member of Blue Star Mothers of America, I often have the opportunity to collect donations for our military. It means more than you can imagine when people stop and give.

Many times, people wind up doing nothing out of fear that they’ll do or say the wrong thing. Really and truly there are very few wrong things. Most are things people have said without thinking and I promise, military families are a forgiving group.  

Here are a few comments you should try to avoid:

Did you see that news story about…

The first thing military families learn during deployment is to avoid watching the news AT ALL COST! The reason is because if something happens, the military will contact the family. Also, we’ve found the news reports are incomplete at best and out-and-out wrong at worst.

I hope your soldier makes it back.

You may wonder that anyone would say this, but people do. We are all scared that something awful might happen and we really don’t need to be reminded about it.

You must be so sorry your (husband, wife, son, daughter) is in the military.

Really? No, we’re proud—button bustin’ proud—and we don’t appreciate those who think it’s something to be ashamed of.

Finally, here is a link to an organization that helps our military and their families. There are chapters all over the US, so chances are, you have at least one in your community.

Blue Star Mothers ofAmerica.

This is a 501(c)3 organization and is set up to reach out to active duty military, their families and veterans who need assistance. Many of the local chapters have websites set up with information. Here is our Greenville Blue Star Mothers website.

Now it's your turn. What helped you while your loved one was serving our country?

Angels on Guard

by Edie Melson

If you say "The Lord is my refuge," and you make the Most High your dwelling, no harm will overtake you, no disaster will come near your tent. For he will command his angels concerning you to guard you in all your ways. Psalm 91:9-11

I will never hear the rumble of a motorcycle again without remembering that day...

It was the funeral service of an army medic, killed by an IED two days after Christmas. He was barely 20 years old and graduated high school in 2010 with my middle son.

While none of us was looking forward to the service, our anxiety was increased by advance knowledge of the planned protest. The group had announced they would be present.

The mindset of people who think they are doing anything productive by harassing families struck by tragedy is beyond me. I know, no matter whom they claim to represent, they are nothing more than ignorant hate-mongers. But my heart ached at the thought of this brave family enduring anything additional on this day.

Then we found out the Patriot Guard would be on duty.

This amazing organization has banded together to stand, as a wall of avenging angels, between the family and those who sought to harm them. I could try to explain their mission, but it’s most aptly stated in the mission statement found on their website. 

Outside the church, they surrounded the mourners, standing at attention and shielding them from all uninvited interlopers. Their respectful silence said it all. These men and women travel hundreds of miles to show the respect of a grateful nation . . . and the provision of God.

Inside the church I listened with one ear to the moving service, and the other straining to catch any sounds of the protestors. I prayed that nothing would interrupt the tribute to brave man. As the service progressed I began to relax, nothing from the outside penetrated the sanctuary.

Then I began to hear—or more accurately feel—a deep rumbling roar. It was an almost inaudible hum, a vibration that seemed to ebb and flow. As I strained to identify the source of the noise, it suddenly hit me. It was the sound of a thousand motorcycle engines, their owners revving the motors to cover any possibility of disrespect.

I smiled to myself. God had set his angels to guard around those who were grieving. And in those engines, I heard the voice of God daring anyone to protest the sacrifice of this young soldier.